The Groomsmen’s Responsibilities and Duties

This may be the groom’s big day but is probably not an ordinary one for you if you’ve been chosen to be a groomsman. An important job as a groomsman takes good care of the groom from sharing his workload to getting him nervous free to the ceremony. Here are some aspects you need to be concerned about as a groomsman:

1. The Wedding Gifts for the Couple: This may be shared amongst the groomsmen but make sure you pick up something useful and liked by the couple.  Bear in mind that your friend is no more single and stray away from bachelor gifts. Of course, you don’t want to be too conservative and get them a crockery set, but wine carrier or a picture frames/clock for their new shared room or a spa voucher will be appreciated.

2. Your Own Personal Issues: “Attend to yourself first than the person next to you” as always reminded in airplanes. You need to ensure that all your personal tasks like picking up and fitting your tuxedo, your accommodation, transport, etc are taken care, before you win the award of responsible groomsman.

3.  Organize and Pay For the Bachelor Party: If you were picked out as the groomsman then you ought to know what the groom would want at his bachelor party. Which type of drinks, who to invite and whether a crazy wild night with strippers is his dream or a fun guys night out with his close friends, is more of his cup of tea?! DO NOT plan according to the fantasies of your single friends. Discuss the issues of payment with the groom and decide whether you’d be handling all the expenses or will it be shared?!

4. Act as an Escort: Make sure you escort the bride and grooms mother and show them to their seats. Escort the bridesmaids down the aisle, dance with the bridesmaids and single guests at the reception, greet the guests and help them find the rest rooms and other areas. Basically, being a warm, smiling handsome man in a tux who is ever supportive and helpful. THAT will win you some points with the ladies!

5.  Be On Time: The last thing you want is a huge audience with their heads twisted, staring right at you as you awkwardly walk late into the reception hall. The glaring from the eyes of the groom and the family members will also be enough to burn you with shame forever. Being on time for the ceremony is a MUST but never be late for the other assemblies, like photograph session, rehearsal, Tux fitting, as well.

6. The Groomsman Speech: All your other tasks will be in discretion between you and your groom. This is one responsibility where the guests and family members gather up to judge you, some thinking of the superb style of your speaking and others commenting on how you forgot to include some names in your thank you list. Relax! Work on your speech during a quiet moment and write with a warm heart. Include the bride and groom’s experiences worth sharing to the public. (Romantic or funny instances but leave out the dirty details). Always start with a note of thanks and end with a similar tone. Make sure it is not too long so you don’t bore your guests, but compact and thorough in terms of gratitude, good wishes and love filled moments!

In the ancient times, the groomsmen were like bodyguards who stood with pride with their shields and swords to ensure the groom’s safety. Now, your job isn’t all that bloodcurdling but is still just as heroic!!